BLAST FROM THE PAST: When Govinda Made Shocking Confessions About Why He Couldn't Marry Neelam!

1. On His First Meeting With Neelam

Govinda spoke about his first meeting with Neelam. He was quoted saying, "I remember the first time I met her. At Pranlal Mehta's office. She was wearing white shorts. Her long hair falling straight, like an angel's. ‘Hello' she said politely, and I was scared to reply because my knowledge of English was embarrassing. It still is. And I wondered how I would communicate with her on the sets. I had never imagined I would work with her. She was a distant dream. I had seen her in ‘Jawani', and seen the film again and again only to see her."

2. On How He Fell In Love With Her

"I was very conscious of her (Neelam). Of the difference in our backgrounds and upbringing. But gradually, we crossed these obstacles, and I started opening up. I would play pranks, crack jokes and she would laugh. We became friends. And we had so many films together. We met so often and the more I got to know her, the more I liked her. There was dignity in her. A kind of piousness in her eyes. And strength of character. There was no vulgarity about her, no loudness. She was the kind of woman any man would have lost his heart to. I lost mine."

3. How He Never Intended To Be Seriously Involved With His Now-Wife Sunita

In the same interview, Govinda had said, "I had never meant to get so seriously involved with Sunita. I was looking for a girl to go around with. I had signed a few films by then, and one day, my elder brother Kirti came to visit me on my sets. I had to do a romantic scene, but couldn't bring myself to do it. I felt very uncomfortable and awkward holding a girl in my arms. So, later, my brother told me, ‘Why don't you have an affair just to get some experience of romance? You'll at least, learn how to hold a girl in your arms'. At that point in time, I met Sunita. I admit that my involvement with her was a totally calculated move on my part. And I paid a heavy price for it."

"I realised too late that one needn't experience death to perform a death scene, similarly one needn't experience romance to perform romantic scenes. It came naturally, one only had to let oneself go. But the harm was done. I had already committed myself to Sunita. I am very impulsive."

4. How His Relationship With Sunita Took A Toil Because Of His Love For Neelam

"I couldn't believe that such a young girl, even after attaining so much name, fame and wealth, could be so simple and down-to-earth. I couldn't stop praising her. To my friends, to my family. Even to Sunita, to whom I was committed. I would tell Sunita to change herself and become like Neelam. I would tell her to learn from her. I was merciless. Sunita would get irritated. She would tell me, ‘You fell in love with me because of what I am, don't ever try to change me'. But I was so confused. I didn't know what to own."

5. When He Broke Off His Engagement With Sunita But Later Ended Up Marrying Her

"After I started getting busier, my relationship with Sunita went through a change. She began feeling insecure and jealous. And I was of no help. She would nag me and I would lose my temper. We had constant fights. In one of those fights, Sunita said something about Neelam, and I lost my head and called it quits. I asked Sunita to leave me. I broke off my engagement with her. And had Sunita not called me after five days and coaxed me into it again, I would probably have married Neelam."

6. The Real Reason Why His Relationship With Neelam Went Kaput

"Neelam had ambitions of her own to fulfill. Every time I broached the topic of marriage, she would laugh it off. She wanted to become the Number One heroine. She loves this profession and she's lying when she says so matter-of-factly that she doesn't much care about what happens to her career. And that it doesn't affect her. She is very ambitious, take it from me."

"She wanted an intelligent, well-to-do, good-looking man as a husband. And I was anything but that. She belonged to the upper strata and I was a dehati, coming from a lower middle-class family. We were poles apart in every way. We probably would never have been successful as a married couple. And maybe, Neelam realised that."

"But the actual problems between her and me began when she started working more and more with other heroes. I was consumed with absolute jealousy and insecurity. I was scared that I would lose out on her totally. And that she was the only, one good heroine that I had. And then ‘Aag Hi Aag' and ‘Paap Ki Duniya' became hits. She started signing more films with Chunky, Sunny, Mithun, Chintu, I was very upset."

7. On Why He Hid His Marriage With Sunita From The Public And Neelam In Particular

"My mother wanted me to officially marry Sunita - we'd had one ceremony in the mandir. For that matter, we were husband and wife. But I had not disclosed publicly my marriage to Sunita because I felt it would affect my career. Neither did Neelam know about it. She got to know only after a year. I probably did not tell her because I did not want to break this successful screen pair. And to be honest, to a certain extent, I did exploit my personal relationship with Neelam for professional ends. I played dirty with her. I should have told her that I was married."

"But there was always such a conflict going on in my mind. After meeting a girl like Neelam, any man is bound to lose his balance. I lost mine totally. I was so confused. I liked her tremendously. I was in love with her. I wanted to marry her. But I couldn't. And yet, I didn't want to let go. Even today, I feel jealous when I see her working with other actors. I wish she would start signing films with me again. If not anything, we could at least be friends."

"Of course, she's very cordial to me whenever we bump into each other. But my heart still misses a beat when I see her. I feel like screaming in despair. If only I had not promised to marry Sunita. If only ...

"I still care for Neelam. And I always will. I don't know why she stopped signing films with me. And cut me off totally from her life. Maybe she felt that our pair was going stale on screen. The same old dancing, the same old steps, the same old Govinda."

8. On Why It Angers Him When People Label His Relationship With Neelam As 'Affair'

Govinda further added, "Love means giving, not taking. I don't demand anything. Nor do I expect. It's pure, simple love. That is why I hate it when my relationship with Neelam is termed as an affair. It somehow demeans the status of the relationship, the depth of my feelings. And I say my feelings, because I can only be sure of them. What she felt, she knows. Maybe there was nothing from her side. But I will never deny my love and reverence for her. I will always care for her. For me it was love, not lust. Love in its purest form. I know she was too good for me. She probably deserves better. And I do wish her all the happiness in the world. The man she marries will be the luckiest man on this earth."

9. When He Believed That There Is A Second Marriage In His Kundli

In the same interview, Govinda confessed, "Tomorrow, who knows, I may get involved again, and then, maybe I will marry the girl I get involved with. But Sunita should be prepared for it. Only then will I feel free. And there is a second marriage in my kundali."

"Well, I am a firm believer of destiny. What has to happen, will happen. Yes, I like Juhi a lot. Even Divya Bharati. Divya is a very sensuous girl. It's difficult for a man to resist her. I know Sunita is going to be very upset with all this. But she should know that I am still resisting Divya's charms. I haven't given in to the temptation as yet..."